Entitled Woman Hosts ‘Kid Free’ Family Reunion, Sparking Tension With Her Sister-in-law When She Demands to Bring Her Kids, the Whole Family Gets Involved

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    r/AITAH • 15 hr. ago WorkingInitial5853 AITA for refusing to let my sister-in-law bring her kids to my family reunion after she constantly criticizes my decisions?
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    I (29F) have been hosting an annual family reunion for the past few years, and this year, it's going to be a little more special since it's also my 30th birthday celebration. I've been planning for a few months now, and after discussing it with my parents and siblings, I decided to make it a "no kids" event. I love my family,
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    but the reunions have gotten a bit chaotic with kids running around, and I wanted to create a more relaxed environment where adults could actually catch up without worrying about the kids.
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    Now, my sister-in-law (35F) has two young kids (5 and 8), and she is really upset about the no-kids rule. She's made it clear that she thinks it's unfair, and she's been going on and on about how the kids will be "bored" and that it's "unreasonable" to not let them come. She even said, "It's your birthday, but you're making it
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    about yourself instead of about family." I've tried to explain that I love her kids, but I just wanted a peaceful, kid-free event this year, especially since it's a milestone birthday. She keeps insisting that the reunion should be for the whole family, and that includes her kids.
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    A few days ago, she texted me and said that if her kids can't come, then she and her husband won't attend. She also mentioned that she doesn't trust anyone else to look after her kids and would rather not go than leave them. with a sitter. Honestly, I was a little frustrated by her attitude. I ended up telling her that if she's
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    not willing to respect my wishes and can't come without the kids, then she's not invited. I know that sounds harsh, but I feel like I've been nothing but accommodating, and she's been really dismissive of my wishes.
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    Now, my brother (32M) is upset with me, and some of my other relatives think I'm being too strict. They say it's not worth losing family over, and that it's just one day—I should let her bring the kids so it doesn't cause drama. But I feel like I've been very clear about what I want for my event, and I don't think it's unreasonable to ask for a child-free gathering.
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    beek_r 15h ago Top 10% Commenter Host a birthday party, and make a child free event. Someone else can host the family reunion at their house, and invite anyone they want.
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    • Legal-Lingonbe... 15h ago. You're confusing birthday party with family reunion. Birthday party all adult event no problem. Family reunion means family.
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    ricst 15h ago • . It's a birthday party for you, no kids. Family reunion, everyone invited. You can't combine because that doesn't allow all family members to attend a family. reunion. Yta, have separate events, but I feel you combine them because not
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    as many will show for your birthday.
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    Economy_Dog5... • 14h ago. Well, it's both YTA and NTA depending on how you put it. "I've decided to throw an adults only birthday party for my 30th birthday instead of doing a family reunion this year, since it would be too much for me to host both events" would be NTA.
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    "I've decided to make the family reunion an adults only event because it's also my 30th birthday" would be YTA. Family reunions are for the entire family.
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    catinnameonly ⚫ 14h ago • Top 10% Commenter NTA for planning a kid free birthday celebration for yourself. YTA - For planning a family reunion without members of the family and deciding that the reunion is also a birthday party for yourself.
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    E... • 15h ago Edited 8h ago • It's laughable you claim it's a "Family Reunion" because it clearly is NOT a family reunion. I'll fix your title for you...
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    "AITA for refusing to let my sister-in-law bring her kids to MY BIRTHDAY PARTY after she constantly criticises my decisions" or "AITA for refusing to let my Brother. bring his kids to MY BIRTHDAY PARTY even though I told everyone it's a family reunion"
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    Of which you've yet to display any of her criticism apart from the blatant exclusion of your sister-in- law, brother, nephews and nieces.
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    YTA. It's either a family reunion where EVERYONE is invited OR a birthday party just for you and those you want there.
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    Eton Rd • 14h ago I don't understand the concept of a family reunion that doesn't include children. I don't think I've ever heard of it. That sounds really odd to me.
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    And you referring to it as your event seems odd as well. I understand you're hosting, but it's a family reunion. It's not really an event about you.
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    If I was invited to a family reunion and told to leave my children at home, I wouldn't attend. The point of a family reunion is to get to spend time with your family and that includes children. If my children aren't going to get the opportunity to get to know the family.... What is the point?

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